We shop, laugh, cry, gossip, and consult one another while having the occasional social cocktail. If you are lucky we will let you know when your outfit is not the cat’s meow. Does it not baffle you how with those few commonalities we share with someone we consider a friend they are 2 seconds away from having their friendship card revoked…indefinitely?
We all have met or been closely acquainted with “Miss Bittersweet”. She is an attractive, educated and career-driven woman. To those who come in contact with her for the first time it appears as if she has it all. To her closest acquaintances her often harsh tones have become an unspoken tolerance that is easily ignored. She has the ability to internalize emotions expressed to her as if she will defecate what others have eaten. She is quick to quote Bible scriptures and imposes her beliefs on you, but is cold as ice to her brothers or father that love her unconditionally. Yet she will bat her eyelids at the man she knows only wants a piece of her “humble pie” in exchange for her anticipation of love. She has convinced herself she can handle a “no strings attached” relationship, but the moment his actions reveal that she is an afterthought rather than the self-proclaimed lady, her infamous motto resurfaces: “all men are the same.” Therefore, any exciting news about your special someone her reaction is guaranteed to be co-signed with sarcastic smirk “must be nice”.
My disclaimer still retains that I am not a professional or expert in any subject matter, however “Miss Bittersweet” and I have crossed paths. It is inevitable that we befriend those that mirror us in some way. At times we tend to overstep our boundaries in the name of friendship. I think it would be an untrue assumption to state that some of us have not had a trace of Bittersweet DNA in our lifetime. Every woman’s season of enlightenment comes as a result of a unique circumstance. It may be an unfortunate needed heartache. The kind of heartache that comes once she realizes that she did not outwit the man into thinking warm humble pie served on fine china affirmed an exclusive courtship.
When it seems that everyone has their “someone” there is silence within us that if not careful can overshadow our ability to display genuine happiness for those we care about; sarcasm. Understanding the fundamental difference between being alone vs being lonely would prevent an enormous amount of self-inflicted pain. A phone call you make to “Miss Bittersweet” to confide in should never feel like a confrontation about she would or would not do; preaching is not the same as consoling. If you refuse love from your closest male figures in your life, how will you ever know how a man is supposed to treat you? Furthermore, how is it you can quote Bible scriptures as a defense mechanism, but never read the Song of Solomon when it is LOVE you yearn for?
